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Video notes: tips for overcoming shame & guilt

Posted on August 5, 2020August 5, 2020 by Mag Nolia

Why?

  • Guilt will keep you from your destiny; it doesn’t help you to do anything better, it causes you to struggle more
  • When we’re guilty, we don’t pursue dreams
  • The enemy knows guilt will keep you from your destiny; focused on your failures, feeling unworthy
  • It’s not helpful to be ashamed – shame erodes the part of us that believes we can change

How?

  • You’re never going to deal with shame – you need to overwhelm it with what you’re most proud of, you have to overwhelm it with the good
  • You have to stack yourself with the good – you have to ask yourself: what am I proud of in my life? What am I grateful for? You have to flood it – it won’t disappear by analyzing it.
  • Shame says there’s something wrong with who I am – guilt says there’s something wrong with what I’ve done / am doing; shame is deeper, guilt is a wasted emotion
  • You shouldn’t feel guilty if you make amends – it doesn’t do us any good; acknowledge it, ask for forgiveness of yourself and from other people
  • If I could turn back the hands of time – ask yourself, would you change your past? Let me ask you this – if I could take away all the lessons you learned from your past, would you allow me to? I’m guessing no. There are lessons learned – it feels cringeworthy, but everything happens for a reason; when you don’t judge your past it’s a lot easier to accept what took place.
  • Self-forgiveness is the pathway to becoming your greatness person – don’t say, it shouldn’t have happened, but that I’ll change how I respond to what happened.
  • Guilt can only exist in places where you care – what we do, we change the narrative of what happened to make the memory more palatable – selective amnesia; until you take responsibility for it, until you don’t tranquilize the guilt; we change the story, because we’re afraid of what it might admit – you can’t heal guilt you don’t own it.
  • Guilt that leads to a change in behavior is a powerful thing; to say I’m sorry.

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