Why?
- Guilt will keep you from your destiny; it doesn’t help you to do anything better, it causes you to struggle more
- When we’re guilty, we don’t pursue dreams
- The enemy knows guilt will keep you from your destiny; focused on your failures, feeling unworthy
- It’s not helpful to be ashamed – shame erodes the part of us that believes we can change
How?
- You’re never going to deal with shame – you need to overwhelm it with what you’re most proud of, you have to overwhelm it with the good
- You have to stack yourself with the good – you have to ask yourself: what am I proud of in my life? What am I grateful for? You have to flood it – it won’t disappear by analyzing it.
- Shame says there’s something wrong with who I am – guilt says there’s something wrong with what I’ve done / am doing; shame is deeper, guilt is a wasted emotion
- You shouldn’t feel guilty if you make amends – it doesn’t do us any good; acknowledge it, ask for forgiveness of yourself and from other people
- If I could turn back the hands of time – ask yourself, would you change your past? Let me ask you this – if I could take away all the lessons you learned from your past, would you allow me to? I’m guessing no. There are lessons learned – it feels cringeworthy, but everything happens for a reason; when you don’t judge your past it’s a lot easier to accept what took place.
- Self-forgiveness is the pathway to becoming your greatness person – don’t say, it shouldn’t have happened, but that I’ll change how I respond to what happened.
- Guilt can only exist in places where you care – what we do, we change the narrative of what happened to make the memory more palatable – selective amnesia; until you take responsibility for it, until you don’t tranquilize the guilt; we change the story, because we’re afraid of what it might admit – you can’t heal guilt you don’t own it.
- Guilt that leads to a change in behavior is a powerful thing; to say I’m sorry.